Being pregnant is not an easy thing , you have to learn and experience so much things in just a short time about yourself and about the baby newborn especially if you are a first time mom ,

So we  put in a “reader survey” in our Facebook group and via our Email list and we asked our followers  one simple question :

Women who have given birth, what’s something no one told you about it, and wish you had known?.

we haven’t done a survey before so we were not  sure how it will go , but surprisingly There were over 100 women who answered the question . Thank you all for taking the time to do that!

in the end it was really cool to see our readers thoughts and stories . we thought it’d be good to share the results with you, so we picked up some answers for you and we commented on some of them to explain things that might be unclear to you .

“People tend to leave out the fact that you will bleed a lot after giving birth! Take your heaviest period times 20” Cindy

“That you have the worst month long period of your life after giving birth. I read books, took childbirth classes and had no idea. Not a nice surprise. – Cristina”

we think that Cindy and Cristina refers to Postpartum hemorrhage which is excessive bleeding following the birth of a baby.

but don’t forget that just about 1% to 5% of women have postpartum hemorrhage and it is more likely with a cesarean birth. Hemorrhage most commonly occurs after the placenta is delivered. The average amount of blood loss after the birth of a single baby in vaginal delivery is about 500 ml (or about a half of a quart). The average amount of blood loss for a cesarean birth is approximately 1,000 ml (or one quart). Most postpartum hemorrhage occurs right after delivery, but it can occur later as well.

“It hurts to pee afterwards, but if you lean forward on the toilet then the pee goes away from the most painful areas.Also try and time your pain relief around trips to the toilet or other strenuous activities. Meredith”

about what Meredith said It is not unusual to have burning while urinating after giving birth to your baby. Typically, the pain that happens with urination is during the first six weeks after delivery, especially if you had a vaginal birth.

Natural Birth:
When you’re pushing, the nurse or doctor will push the skin around where the head is coming out to try and help the baby get out. It was really distracting.

You might shake uncontrollably after giving birth for a little while. It’s completely normal.
The first time you go to the bathroom after giving birth, the nurse will come with you and change your pad for you, and show you how to use the squirt bottle while you pee so it stings less.
It’ll sting when you pee for a little while, especially if you needed stitches.
When you are pushing your baby out, there will be zillions of people in your room. You won’t care.
You also won’t care if/when you poop.
Scheduled C Section:
You will be brought to the room by yourself at first so they can prep you.
They may start opening you up before the person you brought with you is allowed in. They will be able to see everything if they so choose. Tell them not to look.
They still have to push the baby out and need to press on your chest to do so. You won’t be able to breathe very well while they do so.
You can hear everything the doctors are saying. They needed to make my incision bigger because of my son’s gigantic head and they needed an extra doctor in the room because he was huge (11 lbs 2 oz and 2 days early). But we didn’t know that until after. All we knew is that they were frantically calling an extra doctor in the room and frantically asking for extra scissors. There was a lot of commotion down there and it freaked my fiancé and I out big time.
The worst part about the csection is the first time you stand up. I was on Oxys and the pain still took my breath away.
That’s all I can think of so far lol -Kari

Kari here summarized it all for us , thanks Kari

If you think getting a c-section is the ‘easy way out’, it’s not. It’s major abdominal surgery, and your recovery time will be much longer. You are also more at risk for complications and infection. I spent two weeks in hospital after my first with a raging infection that could have prevented me from being able to have more children.Rachel

Rachel is right ,one of the benefits of having a vaginal birth is that it has a shorter hospital stay and recovery time compared with a Csection. … Women who undergo vaginal births avoid having major surgery and its associated risks, such as severe bleeding, scarring, infections, reactions to anesthesia and more longer-lasting pain.

 

Birth can be traumatic and/or completely miss with your mental health up.Between the circumstances of the experience and your hormones after the fact, you can literally go from being a human being that loves life and wants that baby and loves it fiercely, to a human being that :-hates the child you gave birth to-has PTSD-wants to die, or feels a “call of the void” that’s way way way more strong than average-has irrational thoughts-struggles to function. Like… can’t get out of bed. Doesn’t care what happens anymore. Doesn’t want to wake up kind of can’t function.-makes you terrified to ever trust a medical professional againA lot of people, treat birth, and everything after, likes it’s the ultimate test of womanhood – with any action that prioritizes mom’s health as selfish bullshit.PPD is no joke. Trauma is a thing. Hormones suck. All bodies are different. FFS please don’t try to “power through it.” Get help. Get support. Don’t wait.And please don’t be that who tells someone “it can’t be THAT bad” or “all babies are hard,” if you really don’t/can’t understand the situation (actually. Just don’t say that stuff. It’s not productive at all. Maybe lead with “how can I help?”) Tracy

Tracy Talked about Postpartum depression (PPD), also called postnatal depression, is a type of mood disorder associated with childbirth, which can affect both sexes. Symptoms may include extreme sadness, low energy, anxiety, crying episodes, irritability, and changes in sleeping or eating patterns.Onset is typically between one week and one month following childbirth. PPD can also negatively affect the newborn child.

and finally here are some comments from our Facebook group answering to the same question and you can find them in the next page